Our Sexuality will Only Limit Us....If we choose to define ourselves by it

Even before I converted and the clouds cleared and the greys became vibrant with color and stopped melting away as I reached out to touch them;  even before love became palpable, solid, foundational, even before I found my mother, my Church, my life-giving inspiration; even then, I knew there was something wrong with defining myself or anyone else by sexual impulse.

And, yes, I say wrong.  Is it not obvious?  Look at all you are: your kindness or your competence, the ways you serve, the moments of joy you share with treasured ones?  All of those exist with or without sexuality.  And, more important, God loves you tremendously, even if no one else does.

Some people in this world will never have a sexual partner.  Some will make this choice.  Some will have no choice in the matter.  But, regardless, God will give the graces necessary to survive.  Moreover we must trust that heaven will bring joys unknown...and a life pulsating with fulfillment.  Our disability, our talent, our failure, our dreams...these worldly things...these are not us.  We are greater.  We are God's children....so loved.  Not limited.

Sexual impulse is something in us, not bad, but not sophisticated enough or divine enough, that it ought to drive us.  And, certainly, it is not important enought to define us.
I was impressed to see that Tim Gunn knows this.  Although he seems not to have a worldview with which to undergird his innate knowledge, nonetheless he realizes that self-control is not a bad word (or two if you're going to nit-pick).  As someone who loves to watch Project Runway (during my rare forays into mainstream media), I really appreciated this...and my respect for Tim Gunn went up two notches.

Amazing to me, though, that this is so "mind-blowing" to everyone...I mean I know it is, but it's so sad to me.  We are so much more than our sexuality!  Here's a quote from the above-cited article that is almost too much for me.

"Tim Gunn -- the sartorially dapper mentor on "Project Runway," the new co-host of "The Revolution," and an all-around congenial gay guy -- blew the nation's mind this week with his revelation that he hasn't had sex in 29 years. And he's totally OK with it.
Gunn's comments came during an episode of ABC's "The Revolution" -- you can watch it above -- and were greeted with cheers from the audience.
Today, "Tim Gunn" was one of the mostly [sic] widely searched terms on Google, partly because such an admission was shocking even in a world that thrives on TMI.
It also got us thinking: How weird is it to go without sex for 29 years?"

 Really?  It has to be weird to go without sex for 29 years?  I've seen others insinuate that he must be "doing other things" or looking at porn to be able to maintain his celibacy.  I would argue quite the opposite - the more you engage in sexual habits, the more you build the sexual habit.  But that's a post for another day.

Not so long ago, I think, we would have thought the person who thought about sex constantly to be the weird one, or even the perverse one.

I wish we would all reclaim some innocence.